Online friends

“Friends and books are few”. Somebody displayed this quotation on a library building. May be this means good friends and good books are few. The first part of this statement is certainly true. Real friends or true friends are far and few. What is the yard stick to measure friendship? It is a difficult question.

Sacrifice will strengthen a friendship. And sacrifice is certainly a yard stick to measure friendship. If a friend is willing to disregard his personal inconveniences to help you, he is to be considered as a friend and his name should be included in your list of friends. And if he is willing to sacrifice his material gain or personal gain he is most certainly a good friend, a real friend, a sincere friend. You should be proud and lucky to have a ‘friend’ like that.

It is easy to find friends on line. Don’t try to check them out straight away. It is not right. You can’t put him or her under a microscope. Are you willing to make sacrifices for your friend, before he does? If he is your friend, you should be his friend, too. It has to be give and take. It can not be one sided friendship. It is not fair, and it can not be a wholesome friendship. Think about it; friends are, indeed, few!

Now, it is about ‘Online friends.’ If you are a man and most of your online friends are girls, talk to them, all of them. Try to establish friendship before you move any further. A few more steps closer, you are some where near matrimony. Here is a delicate sensitive line. Don’t cross it unless you are absolutely sure to reach matrimonial state of affairs. Yes, don’t cross the line. Not yet! Consider all aspects. Do you really, really know the person? Are you planning to trust your own intuition? How reliable is your intuition? Why don’t you check it out? Try to find people, such as friends or dependable acquaintances to verify this prospective bride or groom!

This is a very tricky situation. It is irritating. Makes one uncomfortable. Nevertheless it is necessary too. If the intentions are honorable, it is justified. The idea is to know the person better. After all they are to be married soon. This is simply a social obligation.

This is where online friends change their status. They are not ‘just friends’ any more.

A good question pops up. Why not continue to be good friends? This is ideal. You don’t expect any thing. You don’t ask for anything. You don’t demand anything. And yet, you expect to be liked. You seek friendship with love. If it is the opposite sex, you expect or seek a platonic friendship. This sort of relationship is very nearly impossible.

It is better to be just a friend. If the person is fluent in language and communication you will enjoy chatting. You can chat about any thing and every thing in this world. Sky is the limit. Some times, very intimate matters can also be discussed. When you both open up you will find lots and lots to talk about. Confidential matters might come under the microscope, and a critical review will ascertain and evaluate the subject matter. It would be very interesting and absorbing.

Such intimacy can inspire an excellent friendship without prejudice or condition. There is nothing in the world that can not be discussed with each other. This sort of relationship help sort out tangled emotions. And it will help heal psychological scars. A healthy outcome from such chatting with good sincere online friends is to be appreciated.